For the introvert, this understanding takes place as it should with an introvert, and that is, not with the extravert, as they come to understand this together. No, this is understood by the introvert as most valuable things in life have always been understood by the introvert, and that is, all alone. But for the extravert, this aloneness is the hardest thing to understand. For if you say that you have eaten your holiday meal all alone, the extravert has such pity for you and says, "Oh that is too bad that you had to eat Thanksgiving dinner all alone." But then again, if the extravert walks in on you and you are eating all alone, they will pardon me and oh I am so sorry to interrupt you. I will leave and come back another time. Rather, I thought that they did not want you to eat alone and then when they are there and you are alone they pardon themselves and leave you all alone.
What the introvert gets out of all of this is the power of understanding even though the misunderstandings will continue to go on and on with the extravert. But there is the calm knowledge that the introvert gets by understanding why he is different and what that means and that there is no point in even discussing it with the extravert because it will only confuse the extravert more. And even if your best friend is an extravert and they do not understand any of this, they are a true friend indeed if they just allow you to be alone when you say you want to be alone. But if the friend does not allow you to be alone when you say you want to be alone, then perhaps he is not the friend he says he is at all, and it may be time to set him free. For a friend is not a friend who forces you to do things against your will. Is he going to tell you for the rest of your life that you need to get out and meet more people? Or is he going to appreciate the good points of a quiet uncluttered social life?
I am an Introvertby #VerySpecialArtists